Real life shipping, is it too far?

"You don't own them. Don't make demands."

The is the best thing I've heard out of people on this site. The whole fandom should take heart, not just in relation to the actors, but also the fiction aspect.

If shippers understood that sentence, (there's be no more shippers really), all problems solved.

"Bughead" is the ship name for Betty and Jughead.

"You don't own them. Don't make demands."

The is the best thing I've heard out of people on this site. The whole fandom should take heart, not just in relation to the actors, but also the fiction aspect.

If shippers understood that sentence, (there's be no more shippers really), all problems solved.

It's baffling and very sad that this is not common sense when it comes to real people. Fictional ships I can see in some instances (I.e a demand for more interracial/LGBT couples), but demanding that "real" ships happen just.....blows my mind.

When you actually meet an actor, sports figure, musician, etc. always remember one thing - they're human and they're simply fulfilling a particular role at a particular time. Be kind, courteous and respectful and know that this meeting is, by and large, nothing overly personal and should be treated as such. Doing so respects their boundaries and keep you (the fan) grounded as to who or what this person actually is or what they represent.

Indeed, Rom, indeed.

Yeah, I'd say that's too far. I never got the fascination people have with celebrity couples to begin with (it doesn't affect me in any way. If they're happy good for them) Shipping people seems worse, particularly if they aren't even dating. It's like some form of speculative voyeurism. Yikes!!

When shipping becomes stalking, it stops being a fan thing and starts being a crazy person thing.

I think if actors are dating in real life it is to some extent okay to say "yeah, I'm happy for them": Following them home and stuff naturally isn't okay. I'm not even sure I would consider that shipping.

I'm way more creeped out by people who "ship" people who to our knowledge aren't even together. (and yes this includes people who "shipped" Melwood before they officially became a couple and were still dating other people)

If actors date, it happens. If they break up, it happens. If they date, I'm happy for them, if they break up I hope they are fine and find happiness elsewhere. But to actively root for real life couples to split up? That is just gross to me. Break ups are not a fun thing. Why would you ever wish one on a person you claim to like? Just so you can fawn over the hypothetical pictures they would produce? Dating co-workers is not fun, again, not something I would ever actually wish on somebody.

If it happens, cool, I wish them happiness. But I would never root for anybody who isn't in a relationship like that to get into a relationship like that.

I never liked Elena and Damon on Vampire Diaries, but I still hoped for their sake that their off screen relationship would go well. And I felt bad for the people involved when it seemed like the breakup wasn't really 100% amicable. But I feel the same way when an actor gets divorced from a no-name significant over. It's just a sad thing. Just like it would be sad for anybody I now casually to get divorced.

I think this idea that people feel like they can dictate over who some lead actress has sex with and they know better than her who she should sex with and it is even their right and position to disapprove of who she has sex with really unsettling and I've seen it get below the belt A LOT. Of course it doesn't help when in this case the people who are dating on the show really are dating in real life, but hey on Glee Melissa didn't date the person who was her main romantic partner on that show, but somebody else. So when people make the leap of: I don't like her character with her fictional partner, I want her with this other fictional partner, that's why I will insist she has to break up with her real life partner and start having sex with the actor of this fictional partner I prefer. To me it's just new levels of disturbing.

And yes, before you ask, those are not hypotheticals. I've seen more than one person on tumblr who argued this and multiple people who liked their posts when they expressed that opinion.