Real life shipping, is it too far?

When you actually meet an actor, sports figure, musician, etc. always remember one thing - they're human and they're simply fulfilling a particular role at a particular time. Be kind, courteous and respectful and know that this meeting is, by and large, nothing overly personal and should be treated as such. Doing so respects their boundaries and keep you (the fan) grounded as to who or what this person actually is or what they represent.

You hit the nail on the head with this. I grew up and still live in the San Francisco Bay Area. It's not LA but we have our share of celebrities. I've driven past Skywalker Ranch my whole life, the original site of Industrial Light and Magic (ILM) was 20 minutes from my childhood home. I went to school with the children of people in the entertainment industry both film and music. There was a kid in my class and his younger brother who annoyed us on the playground because they would not stop bragging that their father thanked them by name in his Academy Award acceptance speech. One of my best friends was the daughter of a fairly famous musician and I had no idea until I was about eight, to me her was just her dad.

Our parents taught us to leave people alone and that it was rude to walk up to someone walking down the street or eating in a restaurant and act like we know them or that they owe us their attention. Earlier this year my family attended the memorial service for a neighbor of my parents. He had worked for ILM and his work will forever live on. I went to school with his son, we had kinda lost touch but I wanted to tell him I was sorry for his loss. I won't name check but there were famous people at this memorial. I'm proud to say not a single person asked for an autograph or selfie or even acknowledged the celebs in attendance, we were all just people attending a memorial service.

"You don't own them. Don't make demands."

The is the best thing I've heard out of people on this site. The whole fandom should take heart, not just in relation to the actors, but also the fiction aspect.

If shippers understood that sentence, (there's be no more shippers really), all problems solved.

"Bughead" is the ship name for Betty and Jughead.

"You don't own them. Don't make demands."

The is the best thing I've heard out of people on this site. The whole fandom should take heart, not just in relation to the actors, but also the fiction aspect.

If shippers understood that sentence, (there's be no more shippers really), all problems solved.

It's baffling and very sad that this is not common sense when it comes to real people. Fictional ships I can see in some instances (I.e a demand for more interracial/LGBT couples), but demanding that "real" ships happen just.....blows my mind.

When you actually meet an actor, sports figure, musician, etc. always remember one thing - they're human and they're simply fulfilling a particular role at a particular time. Be kind, courteous and respectful and know that this meeting is, by and large, nothing overly personal and should be treated as such. Doing so respects their boundaries and keep you (the fan) grounded as to who or what this person actually is or what they represent.

Indeed, Rom, indeed.

I think if actors are dating in real life it is to some extent okay to say "yeah, I'm happy for them": Following them home and stuff naturally isn't okay. I'm not even sure I would consider that shipping.

I'm way more creeped out by people who "ship" people who to our knowledge aren't even together. (and yes this includes people who "shipped" Melwood before they officially became a couple and were still dating other people)

If actors date, it happens. If they break up, it happens. If they date, I'm happy for them, if they break up I hope they are fine and find happiness elsewhere. But to actively root for real life couples to split up? That is just gross to me. Break ups are not a fun thing. Why would you ever wish one on a person you claim to like? Just so you can fawn over the hypothetical pictures they would produce? Dating co-workers is not fun, again, not something I would ever actually wish on somebody.

If it happens, cool, I wish them happiness. But I would never root for anybody who isn't in a relationship like that to get into a relationship like that.

I never liked Elena and Damon on Vampire Diaries, but I still hoped for their sake that their off screen relationship would go well. And I felt bad for the people involved when it seemed like the breakup wasn't really 100% amicable. But I feel the same way when an actor gets divorced from a no-name significant over. It's just a sad thing. Just like it would be sad for anybody I now casually to get divorced.

I think this idea that people feel like they can dictate over who some lead actress has sex with and they know better than her who she should sex with and it is even their right and position to disapprove of who she has sex with really unsettling and I've seen it get below the belt A LOT. Of course it doesn't help when in this case the people who are dating on the show really are dating in real life, but hey on Glee Melissa didn't date the person who was her main romantic partner on that show, but somebody else. So when people make the leap of: I don't like her character with her fictional partner, I want her with this other fictional partner, that's why I will insist she has to break up with her real life partner and start having sex with the actor of this fictional partner I prefer. To me it's just new levels of disturbing.

And yes, before you ask, those are not hypotheticals. I've seen more than one person on tumblr who argued this and multiple people who liked their posts when they expressed that opinion.