Kara should be nicer to Winn

Watching The Flash yesterday and saw Barry talk with Caitlin and Cisco, I was reminded that he had good, amicable and meaningful interactions with every member of his team. Regardless of gender.

It feels like Kara alienates her male friends. It did not begin like that in S1 but it appears more and more she acts like she has something to prove in the affirmative action gone wrong kind of way.

E.g., yesterday, Winn and James offered to go with her, First thing she said was she didn't need their protection. Of course she didn't, they all know her powers, Winn and James were just doing what friends do. Logically, why would she even think that if not to satisfy a "feminist" (I put a quotation mark because I don't want to sully the reputation of genuine feminism) undertone the writers desire?

Untertones aside, as maybe I got it all wrong as to why, she hasn't had a decent conversation with Winn for the past two seasons. It feels she sees him less as a friend and more as an assistant for tech inquiries during missions, because that is honestly the only times they talk. And many times Winn has shown real care for her (as a friend and human being, not romantically), and I've never seen that reciprocated.