Melissa Benoist's latest story [trigger warning: domestic violence]

Wow!! She’s a superhero on and off camera. To think she was dealing with all this during the lengthy audition process for the show then the intense pressure during season one for the show to be a success. She’s talked about the eye injury and wearing an eyepatch during a fitting for the skirted suit in 2015 so we know some of the timeline. It can happen to anyone.

Entertainment Weekly has done a story on this.

https://ew.com/tv/2019/11/27/melissa-benoist-reveals-survivor-domestic-violence/


To say I am shocked and saddened about this the day before Thanksgiving here in the US...is putting it mildly. Her story is like that of my mom's dealing with domestic violence with her now ex-husband, my father. I guess we are both children of divorce.

There was abuse from my father and the marriage crumbled. My mom was 34, dad was about 25 or so when they wed in 1972. Two years later I was born, about a month premature. Little did my parents know I would deal with autism and anxiety. In 1978, they divorced, but I held my dad up high somewhat because that's what boys do. The more I heard about how my dad treated my mom, the more I hated him. In 1982 he remarried and had two daughters in 1987, my stepsisters whom I have not seen in 30 years almost. Then sometime in the 90's, my stepbrother was born. I know nothing about him and maybe it's better that way. Then again, my mom is 81...and I fear what will happen to me if she dies even though we have made preparations for it.

OT--I was also bullied in school and all throughout it, having to see psychiatrists and doctors to try and deal with things. I have told the story before but in 1995, I was diagnosed with what is now called Autism Spectrum Disorder (once called Asperger's Syndrome). Having that knowledge made me feel like my life has started over. I may be 45 (46 come 2/17/2020), but it will be 25 years since the diagnosis that changed my life. I am on medication and have sessions with a psychologist.

This was after in 2018 I was in the hospital for posting out of anger and frustration I wanted to harm people or myself on Facebook. I have deleted my account since then. That was the lowest point in my life. But I think stress was building by having to deal with a cold, dark house that was flooding with water from a Noreaster in early March. A few weeks later, I did not do something for my mother and she yelled at me...and that set off my "emotional big one earthquake" that later had me in the hospital for a few hours. I made a bad thing worse. My father does not know about these events or how I have graduated from high school and college. Frankly I don't care.

I may never ever be in a relationship or married because of what my father did. You know that phrase or Arrow episode title "Sins of the father?"

I was warned the post may trigger people. I hope what I have written is not "being triggered."

Please try to enjoy Thanksgiving here in the states tomorrow.

I may be too old but what is a “Trigger Warning” and is it appropriate for this delicate topic?

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@Admin,

Yes, it is appropriate in this context.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Trigger%20warning

In a nutshell, it's something that could cause people great emotional discomfort or PTSD-like reactions due to similar experiences. There are multiple definitions of the term given in the UD, but the PTSD one is most commonly accepted and, in this case, applicable.

I may be too old but what is a “Trigger Warning” and is it appropriate for this delicate topic?

Yes, I saw the YouTube video clip of this topic. It deserves a mandatory viewing for and by everyone.

Wow and wow again were my two initial reactions. She has courage and I sincerely hope she is able to find peace and solace after having to endure what she did in a prior relationship.

Thank you for putting this topic here. It is worth reading and seeing.