How does Lena not know

Great points, SSAV!

I think what might anger, or rather embarrass Lena about not knowing is that fact that she prides herself in being able to know when people are lying. THEN, couple that with the fact that everyone else in Kara's life that is important to her knows her true identity...that fact, I think, will make Lena feel untrusted. THEN...triple all that with the fact that her MOTHER knows?

An argument I think Kara could use that might lessen Lena's anger/embarrassment/hurt would be something along the lines of, "Lena, you were the ONLY one in my life that I could just be Kara with." I think something like that would actually sink in with Lena, and make sense to her.

I think Lena has a blindspot when it comes to Kara. It is possibly because she seemed to be the first person to have wholly accepted her despite her Luthor last name; and has consistently come through for her.

So.. she doesn't expect this person she cares so much for to lie to her or hide something from her; especially when she has made it clear she has issues with Aliens.

And.. I think it'd be very hard on her when she find out the truth about Kara--enough to actually break her. I had not thought so before, but the way she reacted to Kara's request about Cat Co and whole interaction in episode 2 makes me suspect that.

Kara will have a very hard time earning her trust once that is broken.

BINGO...

I think Lena has a blindspot when it comes to Kara. It is possibly because she seemed to be the first person to have wholly accepted her despite her Luthor last name; and has consistently come through for her.

So.. she doesn't expect this person she cares so much for to lie to her or hide something from her; especially when she has made it clear she has issues with Aliens.

And.. I think it'd be very hard on her when she find out the truth about Kara--enough to actually break her. I had not thought so before, but the way she reacted to Kara's request about Cat Co and whole interaction in episode 2 makes me suspect that.

Kara will have a very hard time earning her trust once that is broken.

Agreed, Kelly. Well actually, she would have found out last scene of the episode before that, I think... Right? The whole scene in the lab when Mon-El confronts mommy dearest with Lena there... Wasn't that a separate epi and then the NEXT week was the almost married epi? Or were they all one?

But yeah... Right then I think is when Lena realized Mike and Mon-El were one. AND so I THOUGHT that's when Lena would put 2 and 2 together for Kara/Supergirl. But instead, all she got to on her thinking was to...oh my KARA is dating an alien. And six month or so later, she STILL hasn't put Kara/Supergirl together.

Yes, I said that in one of my posts above. I don't know that she found out that Mon-el was Rhea's son she was knocked out before their mother/son reunion....but I'm sure she had for a split second wondered how Mon-el suddenly came out of no where with Supergirl and a Man from Mars.....

Agreed, Kelly. Well actually, she would have found out last scene of the episode before that, I think... Right? The whole scene in the lab when Mon-El confronts mommy dearest with Lena there... Wasn't that a separate epi and then the NEXT week was the almost married epi? Or were they all one?

But yeah... Right then I think is when Lena realized Mike and Mon-El were one. AND so I THOUGHT that's when Lena would put 2 and 2 together for Kara/Supergirl. But instead, all she got to on her thinking was to...oh my KARA is dating an alien. And six month or so later, she STILL hasn't put Kara/Supergirl together.

Actually, I believe Lena knew Mike and Mon-El are one in the same. So she saw Kara being with Mon-El, not Supergirl. Remember the scene where Supergirl, upon going up to Rhea's ship to rescue them, Supergirl runs into Mon-El and Lena? Supergirl and Mon-El had to act "cool" in front of Lena, rather than hug and kiss each other?

I think she found out IN THAT EPISODE. She didn't know in the restaurant when It was Kara and Mon-el "Ace Reporter"....at least I don't believe she did. As I stated she found out sort of in episode 20, if she even realized it then....but found out for sure in Ep. 21 "Resist" because she had no clue before that that Mon-el was Rhea's son.

She doesn't know Mon-el is with Supergirl....

She knows that Kara was dating an Alien, who's name was Mon-el, who went by Mike on earth...I don't think she knew he was an alien until she found out that he was Rhea's son. Which wasn't until Ep. 21 "Resist".....so up until the episode where Mike suddenly shows up with Supergirl and a martian....that Mike wasn't just Kara's boyfriend. Then once she is taken up on the ship, she learns who Mike actually is, and that Kara is dating an alien....but there is no reason why she would have thought any thing else other than that.

Also, I think this is why I think that it is important that they allow Lena to be totally pissed at Kara when she does find out.......I don't think it has crossed her mind that Kara OR Supergirl would lie to her. She totally trusts both that they are who they are, and if they were the same person they would of course tell HER. Kara is her best friend, why in the world would she not tell her......OH YEAH......SHE'S A LUTHOR.... well, there it is, even my best friend doesn't trust me. There HAS TO BE some fall out from when she finds out, whether Kara tells her or she finds out some other way.

The only question I have is why didn't Rhea or Lillian tell her who Supergirl actually is? I kind of understand why Lillian didn't, but there was absolutely no reason why Rhea shouldn't have told her.

Actually, I believe Lena knew Mike and Mon-El are one in the same. So she saw Kara being with Mon-El, not Supergirl. Remember the scene where Supergirl, upon going up to Rhea's ship to rescue them, Supergirl runs into Mon-El and Lena? Supergirl and Mon-El had to act "cool" in front of Lena, rather than hug and kiss each other?